90% of your fears come from memories of your past and they are not real right at this moment.
Fear turns on stress that turns on habit. There is a circuit on your brain that makes this real.
Exp: you’re are afraid of speaking in public because once you stood up in 10th grade, you said something and the whole class burst out laughing. Guess what? That’s in the past, you’re not in 10th grade anymore. There is no grantee that this incident will repeat, as a matter of fact, you’re more mature now, hopefully more confident, and you’ll be speaking to a mature audience, that came there to listen to you, so your fear can sit in the past. With that decision you reduced your stress.
If your fear won’t leave you alone and stops you from doing things, take a piece of paper, write it down. This exercise will disconnect the thought from your brain while transfered on paper. This paper then, you can throw away, burn, set free in the wind, and let go. As you let go to the paper, imagine letting go of that fear. You might need to repeat this every time you have that fear (or other fears) in order to get into the habit of LETTING GO.
John Maxwell is well aware of past fears, and suggested making and keeping a “crap board next to your “vision board.
Your vision board can contain pictures, words that illustrates your future, that motivates you into action, and gets you into a positive disposition. a vision board is basically a tool for upgrading your possibilities.
Your crap board can include your fears, your negative actions or feelings and or things that block u from positive actions. Your crap board allows you to stay honest and recognize yourself.
Some would argue that the crap board will just encourage our negative behavior to continue, but in John Maxwell’s opinion, it reminds you why you are acting in a certain way, and since your vision board is displayed right beside it, you always have the bright side in sight of your future. Could this future look unrealistic right now? absolutely. When I created my first vision board it contained images of things that I haven’t obtained, but I was able to envision a future and work towards that, instead of dwelling on my then current unfavorable situation…I didn’t know I was supposed to have a crap board back then, which now I see just as a reminder of why I’m not realizing my future the way I intended…and it’s mostly because my fears that hold me back and because my vision changed over time.
My fears were/are being average, not good enough, not having enough money, fear of letting others down, not being the standard beauty with the long blond hair in a skinny body….etc…
Creating a vision board gave me perspective. I created my very first vision board with Gigi Hashish, who is my friend and at the time my mentor. I’m thankful for her. For her guidance, even tho at at the time I thought she was too motherly; over time I realised that she’s a friend first and foremost, and then and mentor.
My vision board has been updated since I created it the first time, and it will be updated again soon. As I move forward in life my priorities change, but what will never change is moving forward. Whether it is visible to others or not…I really don’t see a need for validation anymore, therefore I’m doing what I see it’s best for me and those around me.
With the time passing my vision of the future changes. Things that seemed super important and hard to attain diminished in importance and some new goals emerged. My current vision board hasn’t been updated since 2013. It has some blank areas also…it’s been through a lot, just like me, but one thing will never change: a positive outlook, on life, on people, on animals and on the world in general.
I am now more calm, I let go of many thought that I was harboring for decades thinking they help me stay on my toes and be aware…I’m tired of walking on my tippy toes…I’m standing my ground and walking stronger then ever…
So, per my advice, I will create my crap board, and I’ll make sure to place it side by side with my new upgraded vision board once they’re complete, until then, peace out, and enjoy the picture of my current incomplete and old vision board. please make time to make your own, and show me. I care about you and your vision board.
And don’t be afraid kick your fears in the butt and move forward. If you feel you
still can’t, get in touch with me, let’s figure it out together. I’m all about helping.